Hello hive!!! It’s been such a long time since my mug has graced these parts. I’m so excited to be apart of this new series and to give you a glimpse of our relationship since we got married almost 3 years ago! The point of this particular post is to look at whether or not we have been living up to our vows since getting hitched. For those of you who don’t remember our vows, here they are:

From this day forward, I, Miss Doily/Mr. Doily, promise you these things: I will laugh with you in times of joy, comfort you in times of sorrow, I will pray for you daily, I will share in your dreams, I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, Speak to you with encouragement, I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish you for all the days of our lives.

1. I will laugh with you in times of joy, comfort you in times of sorrow

We have some really happy times since getting married, and some trying times as well. As far as the times of comforting each other, I feel we have done a really good job at that. Mr. D has been there for me as I fell out of several relationships with friends, I became estranged from one of my brothers, and ultimately come to the realization that getting older sucks. Mr. D’s dad had a stroke, ended up having a tumor in his heart, and subsequently had to get it removed in a risky procedure. Throughout this all, we stuck together like a team. I knew that this would be a part of our vows that we could uphold easily, after all, we had already made it through some of the darkest times of our lives without walking away when we weren’t married, and as people of faith, we take those vows even more seriously now. We are always so quick to laugh at and with each other, so this is has been one of our easier vows to maintain.

2. I will pray for you daily.

This is another vow that has been easy to uphold. Both of us are pretty avid prayers and say them at least once a day, if not more. We don’t often pray with each other, but I know that each other’s name always shows up in the other’s prayer.

3. I will share in your dreams

This is not always the easiest vow to uphold. It’s not saying that I will simply support Mr. D’s dreams, or him mine, but that we will share in them. To me, this means that we will strive to help each other accomplish these things. Sometimes another person’s dream can be hard to support, or even contradictory to what you want. Sometimes their dream can mean that you have to put your own on hold to help them achieve theirs. We haven’t always had to deal with this, but I do know that Mr. D had to put aside some of his dreams to help share in my own, and I will always be so grateful for that and will make that up to him the first chance that I can.

4. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, Speak to you with encouragement

When you are pissed off, this can be the hardest vow to uphold. Add in there a 39 hour labor followed by a newborn, sleep deprivation, and new financial concerns, and it can be near impossible. I’m not going to pretend and say that we never fight. That’s naïve and it’s a lie. But we are getting really good at learning to go our separate ways when we get super pissed and then cooling down before talking it over again. We know that we need to listen and speak kindly to grow as a couple. It’s not always the easiest thing to do, and we don’t always achieve it, but we sure try our hardest.

5. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health,

I feel like these three vows all kind of tie in to each other. It’s so easy to turn on each other when illness or financial emergencies strike, but Mr. D and I have worked really hard to keep communication up and to not let nerves or anxiety speak for us. Mr. D has always been awesome at taking care of me when I’m not at my best health wise. When I was pregnant with our son, he would go to the store without a second thought to pick up my cravings, he would make the time to go to any appointment that I asked him to, and he was there for me every step of my labor (did I mention it was 39 hours, ;). He was so kind during my recovery from giving birth. Even now as I am battling gallstones and impending surgery, he has been sure to do what he can to make me feel better. The dude is never sick though, so I’ve never had a chance to baby him.

6. to love and to cherish you for all the days of our lives

And boy do I love that man. I know he loves me, his words and actions say it all. What is the most amazing is that I don’t get to cherish him as just a husband and partner in life, but also the father of our son. Seeing him love that little guy makes me love him even more. It makes me certain that God chose the right man for me, and I’m so thankful for Mr. D every single day.

I’m not trying to post our marriage as picture perfect, because it’s not, but it’s happy and it’s so full of love. I mean really, how could you not look at this, and swell with love every single day?

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I’m a lucky, lucky gal.

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