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Hello hive!!! It’s been such a long time since my mug has graced these parts. I’m so excited to be apart of this new series and to give you a glimpse of our relationship since we got married almost 3 years ago! The point of this particular post is to look at whether or not we have been living up to our vows since getting hitched. For those of you who don’t remember our vows, here they are:

From this day forward, I, Miss Doily/Mr. Doily, promise you these things: I will laugh with you in times of joy, comfort you in times of sorrow, I will pray for you daily, I will share in your dreams, I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, Speak to you with encouragement, I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish you for all the days of our lives.

1. I will laugh with you in times of joy, comfort you in times of sorrow

We have some really happy times since getting married, and some trying times as well. As far as the times of comforting each other, I feel we have done a really good job at that. Mr. D has been there for me as I fell out of several relationships with friends, I became estranged from one of my brothers, and ultimately come to the realization that getting older sucks. Mr. D’s dad had a stroke, ended up having a tumor in his heart, and subsequently had to get it removed in a risky procedure. Throughout this all, we stuck together like a team. I knew that this would be a part of our vows that we could uphold easily, after all, we had already made it through some of the darkest times of our lives without walking away when we weren’t married, and as people of faith, we take those vows even more seriously now. We are always so quick to laugh at and with each other, so this is has been one of our easier vows to maintain.

2. I will pray for you daily.

This is another vow that has been easy to uphold. Both of us are pretty avid prayers and say them at least once a day, if not more. We don’t often pray with each other, but I know that each other’s name always shows up in the other’s prayer.

3. I will share in your dreams

This is not always the easiest vow to uphold. It’s not saying that I will simply support Mr. D’s dreams, or him mine, but that we will share in them. To me, this means that we will strive to help each other accomplish these things. Sometimes another person’s dream can be hard to support, or even contradictory to what you want. Sometimes their dream can mean that you have to put your own on hold to help them achieve theirs. We haven’t always had to deal with this, but I do know that Mr. D had to put aside some of his dreams to help share in my own, and I will always be so grateful for that and will make that up to him the first chance that I can.

4. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, Speak to you with encouragement

When you are pissed off, this can be the hardest vow to uphold. Add in there a 39 hour labor followed by a newborn, sleep deprivation, and new financial concerns, and it can be near impossible. I’m not going to pretend and say that we never fight. That’s naïve and it’s a lie. But we are getting really good at learning to go our separate ways when we get super pissed and then cooling down before talking it over again. We know that we need to listen and speak kindly to grow as a couple. It’s not always the easiest thing to do, and we don’t always achieve it, but we sure try our hardest.

5. I will remain faithful to you for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health,

I feel like these three vows all kind of tie in to each other. It’s so easy to turn on each other when illness or financial emergencies strike, but Mr. D and I have worked really hard to keep communication up and to not let nerves or anxiety speak for us. Mr. D has always been awesome at taking care of me when I’m not at my best health wise. When I was pregnant with our son, he would go to the store without a second thought to pick up my cravings, he would make the time to go to any appointment that I asked him to, and he was there for me every step of my labor (did I mention it was 39 hours, ;). He was so kind during my recovery from giving birth. Even now as I am battling gallstones and impending surgery, he has been sure to do what he can to make me feel better. The dude is never sick though, so I’ve never had a chance to baby him.

6. to love and to cherish you for all the days of our lives

And boy do I love that man. I know he loves me, his words and actions say it all. What is the most amazing is that I don’t get to cherish him as just a husband and partner in life, but also the father of our son. Seeing him love that little guy makes me love him even more. It makes me certain that God chose the right man for me, and I’m so thankful for Mr. D every single day.

I’m not trying to post our marriage as picture perfect, because it’s not, but it’s happy and it’s so full of love. I mean really, how could you not look at this, and swell with love every single day?

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I’m a lucky, lucky gal.

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Hello hive! I just thought I would pop in and say hello! Today is Mr. D and I’s first anniversary. It’s really weird for us because we haven’t celebrated a first anniversary in almost 8 years! It’s still so completely crazy to us that we were walking down the aisle and sharing our vows to each other one year ago today. At times it has felt like time has been really slow and it was just yesterday that we got married and others it feels like it’s been forever since this happened:

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Mr. D and I have been working some weird hours the last few days, so we are making a point of spending the day together doing some fun things (like catch up on our Supernatural marathon), and will be going out to dinner. Since the first anniversary gift is typically paper, I ordered this for Mr. D from  Thrift Mrs. on etsy:

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It has lovingly been framed and hung on the wall. Unfortunately Mr. D’s gift to me has been delayed and was lost at one point, so I will not be getting it until next week, so I have to wait with bated breath to find out what it is and I can’t wait!

For us, this first year of marriage has been amazing and so full of love. It has been relatively calm as well, which I am thankful for! Mr. D switched jobs that has now allowed us to actually spend time together and have weekends off! I am about to make the switch from a classroom setting to a clinic setting, which will be a big adjustment for me, but I’m ready for it, especially knowing that I have Mr. D’s love and support.

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Thank you again, dear hive, for allowed us to share our story with you, and for the continued support and friendships on the boards, they mean the world to me.

I can’t wait to see what forever holds for Mr. D and I (I, for one, really hope that there is little Doilies involved).

It was over seventeen months ago that I was introduce as Miss Doily in my first ever post “Miss Doily is in the house.” During that time I flipped flopped over many wedding decisions, grew as a writer, and got to really get immersed in this wonderful community. I have made some lifelong friends out of board members and other bee bloggers. I have been introduced to other cultures and traditions that have only enriched my life even more. And along the way, I married my best friend and love of my life. It’s been such an incredible journey, and I still feel so blessed everyday to have been chosen to be a bee blogger. Even more so, I feel so blessed that there were people who truly enjoyed hearing Mr. D’s and I’s journey and even took some things from it.

When it comes to our wedding, there is really only one thing left to share. Mr. D and I bought flipcams shortly before the wedding to film the entire thing for his ailing grandmother who was not able to make it across the country to share our day. So we filmed everything and edited it to the best of our ability and shipped it off to her right away. She ended up passing only a few weeks after getting it, but it was a huge blessing to us and to her that she got to see it for herself.

Video link: https://vimeo.com/39794934

Mr. D’s and I’s love story has not always been an easy one, and it certainly was not this fantastic fairytale, but we definitely will get our happily ever after. We have learned that our love is important enough to fight through the hard times and to make this a forever journey. As this one particular part of our journey ends, we are beginning another one that consists of making a home and hopefully expanding the Doily brood. You can find us on our grand adventures over at my new blog, Undomestically Ever After. It probably won’t be the most interesting thing ever, but I can hopefully share some laughs and some lessons about life.

So thank you, thank you, thank you hive, for letting me a part of this wonderful community. I hope to pop back in every now and then, and will continue to be around the boards, but my time as an active blogger is over. With that, I’m leaving the building.

Forever yours,

Courtney

aka Mrs. Doily

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Mr. D and I knew that we were going to pay for the wedding ourselves. So when we set an initial budget, we were shooting for 10k. So how close did we get? Well, let’s find out!

Attire:

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Dress (including bustle, undergarments, and tax- no alterations were needed.): $1309

Accessories:

Earrings: $54.60

Bracelet: Gifted

Necklace: Borrowed

Veil: Borrowed

Shoes (Both the heels and the Tom’s): $87.54

Hair Flower: $5.78

Beauty:

Hair and make-up (trial and tip for both included): $180

Manicure: $50

Mr. D:

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Tux: Free rental

Shoes: Converse $65

Haircut: $25

ATTIRE TOTAL: $1732.70

Ceremony:

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Site rental (including DOC, rehearsal, cleanup, sound technician): $350

Pre-marital counseling: $50 gift given to the couple that counseled us

Ceremony décor (backdrop, reserved signs): $8

Ceremony Music: $24

Ribbon wands: $32.40

Flowers (including all bouquets, mother/grandmother pins, boutonnieres, Sign Dude’s sign, and flower girl’s pomander): $43.67

CEREMONY TOTAL: $508.07

Reception:

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Site rental

This included our catering, sparkly backdrop, cake table backdrop, white linens, and open wine and beer bar: $3477.35

Tablescapes

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Milk Glass and vintage books: Borrowed from Mr. D’s mother’s antique shop

Coffee Filter half-pomander “flowers”- $22.73

Doily Chargers/Placecards: $18.45

Candles (including votive holder and 8-hour long-lasting tea candle): 66.98

Linens: (including 110 white chair covers, 110 apple green sashes, 11 navy blue tablecloths, 5 navy satin runners) $426.29

Tablescape Total: 534.45 (another way of looking of it is $44.54 per table)

Guest Welcome Table

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Seating Chart: $5

Welcome sign: $1.60

Tea tin: I had owned it for years

Cardbox: $12.43

Green box for guestbook pages: $2.50

Ink to print guestbook pages: $18.99

Markers for guestbook pages: $12.50

Welcome table total: $53.02

Cupcake Table:

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Cupcakes:

Price of cupcake batter supplies, frosting, and decoration: $28.39

Price of cupcake liners: $15.79

Cupcake tower: given to us by a friend

Cake topper: $8.45

Pictures: I made the designs and printed them myself, the frames cost $6.68.

The linens and backdrop were included in site rental and the candles were included in the price of the tablescapes.

Cupcake Table Total: $58.89

Memory Table (including favors)

 

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Assorted frames: $7.34

Candles: $8.24 (this includes the vellum, but not the ribbon, as that was part of the purchase in flowers)

Customized rubber bracelets (200 of them): $53.44

Basket for bracelets: $2.63

Runner is included in price of linens above.

Total Memory Table Cost: $71.65

DJ:

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$850

This includes the price for 7 hours of music, a light show, and our blue uplighting

RECEPTION TOTAL: $5045.36

Paper Products:

Invitations (this includes the base invites, the stamps and the ink for printing them): $81.55

Save-the-dates: $18

Thank you cards: $45.56

TOTAL PAPER PRODUCTS: $145.11

Miscellaneous Wedding Purchases:

Rehearsal Dinner: $512.84

Rings: $364.29

Wedding party gifts: $312

Marriage License: $35

Photographer (included: engagement sessions, 10 hours on wedding day, wedding album, $500 print credit, DVD of all images) : $2195

Flipcams: $185.73

Hotel room for wedding night: gifted to us by family

MISC TOTAL: $3604.86

 

Which brings us to the final tally…..drumroll please (bum bum bum bum bum bum)

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We managed to only go over by $1, 036.10. As we got closer, we realized that were going to be able to pay for the wedding with no problem and added things to our budget (like chair covers and the backdrops at the reception site). I am extremely proud that we managed to stick so close to our budget and get everything we wanted out of our day. It really was the perfect day and I often think back of it in extreme fondness. It’s a day that I will remember forever and always.

I’m a little sad to say it, but also a bit relieved (recaps can take a lot out of you! ;), but that is it for the Doily wedding. There is only one more thing for me to do, but I will share that for another post. Thank you so much for letting me share this journey with you!

All photos that are watermarked are from An Unforgettable Memory Photography, the rest are guest and personal photos.

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I’m so freaking excited for this particular post! This has always been one of my favorite recap posts of other bees, so I’m so ecstatic to finally be sharing mine!

So let’s start with the ceremony details:

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This is the backdrop that I created out of coffee filters, poster board, bamboo skewers, and ribbon. It only took me about two hours start to finish creating them and I love the texture they gave the black curtains.

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We scrapped our original plan of doing a chalkboard program once we remembered that our church had a large screen for projections. Instead we created our program on a PowerPoint that changed slides every 20 seconds or so.

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These are the ribbon wands that MOH A, BM S, and I spend a whole weekend creating. People waved them as we kissed, as we left the church, and to make us kiss during the reception. I loved these things! I still have some that I now use as kitty toys.

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I hand crafted all of our white peony bouquets out of coffee filters using this tutorial by Michella Marie. It was pretty simple and I did it over several week s so it wasn’t overwhelming.

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Attached to my bouquet was my doily moniker charm that I mod-podged a picture of my father onto. This charm now hangs on my keychain and I get to have two of my favorite things with me every day: The hive and my father. The brooch was my great-great-great grandmothers. It was given to me by my grandmother the night before the wedding.

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We tied a yellow ribbon and placed a Bible in the chair my brother would have sat if he had been in the US. The yellow ribbon was to signify our wish for my brother to return from war safely, and the Bible was for our faith in God that it would happen.

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And a close up of our rings.

Next is the Reception details:

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The cupcake table. We made all of the cupcakes on the table and I made all of the signs, the cake topper, and the decoration on the cupcake stand (See the doilies!!):

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The memorial table:

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I made the candles by tracing the person’s name on vellum, attaching that onto the candle and putting a little ribbon on it to tie it all in.

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We also included a little poem and placed the favors on the memorial table. Instead of doing seed packets like I originally envisioned, we went with white bracelets with the phrase “A Breath for Life” on them.

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Our centerpieces consisted of candles, coffee filter flowers on different milk glass vases, on top of vintage books. The chargers/placecards were doilies with the person’s name on it (those bad boys took me months!).

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I also made trifolds that contained the table number, an I Spy game, and the menu.

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This is what it looked more like with the lights down. I wanted a soft romantic look at the tables, and we also had the room washed in blue backlights.

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This is what the table looked like upon entering the space.

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We did our seating chart on a piece of navy foam board, we printed the names of the those at the table in a vintage boarder and I hand wrote the table number and the “Dayton” at the top in silver marker. The card box was a box that looked like a large vintage book with the doily bunting added by me. The markers for the guestbook pages were in a vintage tea can that I picked up at an antique shop years ago. The welcome sign was one of my first DIY’s for the wedding and now sits in our entryway.

Finally, I tied my borrowed bees onto my hair flower that I wore for the reception. I wanted them near me on the day of and knew that my bouquet would just sit in a vase. After I was done with these, they went onward to Mrs. Dalmatian!Dayton-2012-312-L

And that, my dear friends, are the details of our day. I loved the way that everything turned out and it was so completely Mr. D and I. Everyone said that they could tell how much time and love was put into planning our day and that it was the most beautiful wedding they had ever been to. It warmed my heart that people saw this.

UP NEXT: Our budget breakdown.

All photos that are watermarked are from An Unforgettable Memory Photography, the rest are guest and personal photos.

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Almost all of our wedding guests and all of our wedding party were all staying at the same hotel. This just happened to have a bar attached to it. Naturally an after party was going to happen. And naturally, all I have to show you are a lot of fuzzy cell phone pictures of the event. A lot of our guests used the free shuttle service to and from the hotel that we had set up, so most of our guests and wedding party were there before us. We entered into a round of applause, both from our guests and from the patrons of the bar. We got another round of congratulations and another round of drinks:

 

I’m unsure of why GM C looks so concerned and why MOH A is duckfacing, but I do know that they are both awesome.

 

While BM Sister changed, the rest of us kept it classy and stayed in dress. This could also be because I somehow forgot to pack a bag for myself and Mr. D so we had nothing to change into. MOH A totally had to run to our apartment and bring us clothes the next morning. Yeah…go me.

 

BM S somehow ended up with Sign Dude’s little bowtie. I’m not sure how it happened, only that it did.

 

GM J and BM D totally busted out the pool game. They were the only two that played however. The rest of us were content to just watch and drink.

 

And once again MIL D looks super unhappy, but I promise you she was not. She was seriously overjoyed at us getting married.

Shortly after this, we all went to one of the GM’s room and hung out until about 2 in the morning when Mr. D and I finally retired to our honeymoon suite. It had been a long and glorious day, the best day in my life so far.

UP NEXT: It’s in the details.

All photos are personal.

 

 

Now that the dollar dance was over, it was time to really let loose and get down. Our DJ cranked the music and played all of our favorites to get the guests up on the floor. From this point on, the floor was never empty until it was time to leave:

Can you guess what song was playing?

 

Mr. D rocked it out with his aunt.

 

The girls took advantage of our open bar.

 

I danced to “We are family” with all of the fantastic women in my life (yes, my Aunt is wearing slippers on the dance floor…she don’t play around when it comes to grooving.)

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Mr. D and I took a quick break from the hot dance floor to do a shot with our friends. Don’t you love Mr. D’s face?

And as the floor really began to rock, our DJ George took a moment to turn one of our must play songs into a little game among the guests. Mr. D and I are both Iowa State fans, so it was a must that “Sweet Caroline” was played during the reception (it’s played after our wins during the football season).

George had us divide the dance floor between men and women:

 

And during the chorus there is a part where people fill in with a chant (it will be in parentheses). It goes:

“Sweet Caroline (BUM BUM BUM),

Good times never felt so good (SO GOOD, SO GOOD),

I’ve been inclined (BUM BUM BUM)…”

So George had the men take the “BUM BUM BUM” part and the women take the “SO GOOD, SO GOOD” part. Then he would judge who was the loudest:

 

 

 

 

Just in case you were wondering…the women totally won. Once we had that title of being awesome, it was time for us to get back to dancing and having a good time. What better way to do that than to do a circle dance to “Jump on it” by Apache?

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I stole away from the dance floor to take a picture with my adorable niece:

 

And returned just in time to teach everyone how to Dougie (don’t be jealous of my moves or my duckface).

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As the night was winding down, I made sure that two things happened. One, that I got down with my ladies to “Baby Got Back”:

 

And that our last song (like I’m sure so many people before us) was Journey “Midnight Train.”

Because at that point, everyone was on the dance floor belting it out and our photographer had left, there are no pictures of this glorious event. Take my word for it though; it was awesome to be surrounded by those people belting it out.

And with that, the Doily wedding was officially over.

Yes, we totally went through an entire keg and all of their White infendal. Which is amazing considered it was a 100 person wedding.

All photos without *’s are from An Unforgettable Memory Photography..

UP NEXT: We weren’t quite done partying yet.

There has been many a debate about whether or not couples want to include a dollar dance in their reception.  It wasn’t for us though, as it’s a very traditional thing to do in the Midwest, especially in Eastern Iowa where there is a heavy German/Polish (I myself, am half German) background.  Every single wedding I have been to in this area has had it and no one has ever blinked twice. In fact, I have found that it’s often common practice to hold back some of the money you wanted to gift the couple and save it for the dollar dance. Because of this, when the DJ announced the dollar dance, we had lines immediately form. Most people see it as a fantastic way to get a little extra one on one time with the bride and groom.

MOH A and Best Man N both took their positions near us to collect any offerings and also would keep track of time. I noticed that during this time, a lot of people took the time to talk to other people they may know or work on our guestbook pages when they weren’t dancing with Mr. D or I:

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My mom was the first person in Mr. D’s line. She thought it was a hoot when he gave her a turn:

 

I danced with my sister for a bit:

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Mr. D danced with GM J (and did a little dip):

And I got a bit embarrassed by my dear Aunties. One came on to the dance floor and refused to relinquish her bill to MOH A, instead she insisted on sticking it in my cleavage (which I thought was hilarious). Just as we started dancing, my other Auntie came running onto the dance floor, yelling “Threesome!” while waving another bill, that she also shoved into my boobs. We did, however, get one of my favorite shots of the night from this moment:

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Mr. D danced with MOH A’s little sister middle school style:

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I danced with my stepfather (PS…you can see the bills my Aunties stuck in there, so incredibly classy):

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And then Mr. D danced with BM S, who was kind enough to feed him some of her beer:

Best Man N posed with the cash that Mr. D was collecting:

 

BM S went to hand me her offering and proceeded to show me everything that had been collecting in her boobie fanny pack (I think at this point it was two cell phones, a disposable camera, a digital camera, and cash):

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I ended my dollar dance with MOH A, as Mr. D wandered off for a group shot with his groomsmen:

I loved having some time with the people I held dearest in my heart, and I know that Mr. D did as well. Now that all of the formalities were over with, it was finally time to really party!!

UP NEXT: We get down to get down tonight

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While there was a slight lull in the reception: right after the first dances while there was some generic dance music on, our photography Jenn whisked us away for 15 minutes for a quick mini-session. I loved doing this because it gave Mr. D and I a few moments of just each other. It also allowed for us to get some beautiful pictures:

 

 

 

It also allowed us to get some beautiful solo shots:

 

 

And to capture one of my very, very favorite images of the day:

I just adore this picture. It’s definitely one of the ones going up in our home! I highly recommend doing this if you have a chance. It was really great to just have the moment for just us, especially because once the reception started, it seemed like we were constantly being pulled different ways by different people.

Soon, members of the wedding party trickled out to look for us, so we returned to our reception, ready to get things really rocking!

All photos are from An Unforgettable Memory Photography.

UP NEXT: We do a traditional dance

 

 

 

Once we were done with our dinner, toasts, and cupcake eating, it was time for Mr. D and I to do our first dance. If you recall, choosing our first song was quite an ordeal, but we chose it and it was finally time to show off our dance moves:

Hustle, bustle and so much muscle
Cells about to separate
And I find it hard to concentrate and

Temporary this cash and carry
I’m stepping up to indicate
The time has come to deviate and

All I want is for you to be happy and
Take this moment to make you my family and
Finally you have found something perfect and
Finally you have found

 

 

Death defying this mess I’m buying
It’s raining down with love and hate
And I find it hard to motivate and

Estuary is blessed but scary your
Heart’s about to palpitate
And I’m not about to hesitate and

One to treasure the rest of your days here and
Give you pleasure in so many ways dear and
Finally you have found something perfect and
Finally you have found… here we go

 

Do you want me to show up for duty and
Serve this woman and honor her beauty and
Finally you have found something perfect and
Finally you have found… yourself

With me… will… you… agree to take
This man… into your world…
And now… we are as one…

My lone ranger the heat exchanger
Is living in this figure eight
And I’ll do my best to recreate and

Sweet precision and soft collision
Hearts about to palpitate
And I find it hard to separate and

 

All I want is for you to be happy and
Take this woman and make you my family and
Finally you have found someone perfect and
Finally you have found… now

All I want is for you to be happy and
Take this woman and make you my family and
Finally you have found someone perfect and
Finally you have found… yourself

Once we were done it was time for Mr. D to do his dance with his mother. They chose to dance to “Simple Man” by Lynard Skynard.

While they danced, I went and held my grandmother’s hand, knowing that the absence of a father-daughter dance was weighing heavy on her just like it was one me. I watched fondly as Mr. D spent those moments with his mother, and knew that my father was also with me.

All photography by An Unforgettable Memory Photography.

UP NEXT: Mr. D and Mrs. Doily get their own private moment